For years, I have been coaching a lot of people, and when I start asking them what their biggest fear is, they start talking about fear of failure and fear of rejection. But when I ask more questions, I notice something very surprising.
It probably will surprise you too.
What is this fear?
If you say fear of SUCCESS, you are right.
Let me explain.
When I ask people what are the consequences or costs of success, the first reaction is, what do you mean what is the cost? There is none. But when we dig a little bit deeper, the following responses usually come up:
- More responsibilities
- Have to be out there and can’t hide
- Make bigger decisions
- More conflicts, more stress, and not pleasant
- Not enough time for family and friends
- Longer working hours
- Changing lifestyle, changing who you are
- Unreasonable expectation from others
- Not knowing whether people want to be with you for who you are or because of your success and money
- Not being happy when you achieve success
- Feeling you don’t deserve success
- It’s morally wrong to have the kind of money and success that you desire
These are some of the reasons that you are not getting the results that you say you want. When there is incongruence between what you say you want and your state of mind, you start sabotaging yourself!
It is important to realize what is really holding you back and what your blind spots are. For you to succeed, you need to align your feelings/state of mind with your goals/desires…
Ask yourself:
- What does success mean to you?
- What happens if you don’t achieve success?
- What happens if you do achieve success?
- Who do you think you need to be in order to succeed?
There is a cost and a payoff for all of your behaviors! Unless you recognize them, you can’t do anything about them. What are yours?
A quote by Marianne Williamson says: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.”
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